Pierced Angel

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  I'm in agony

  by rem in

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  my wife just left me this morning.

  i've been crying all night.

  i am so drained.

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  Pierced Angel

  Is your wife da'd too or still in?
  I da'd right at the same time as my marriage was suffering. It was terrible and is just now feeling really good again. I need to make more friends though. How are you doing with that?
  She might be feeling smothered somewhat since you probably are relying on her more than ever since you da'd?
  Just guessing. Sorry to be so presumptuous.
  I kept telling Joel that "hey, I used to think of living forever, now I've got only this life and dammit, I want to live it up!" I just want to keep busy so I don't have to think about time flying by.
  be patient and calm with her if you can.
  Sorry you're having to go through this. I hope it works out for you both.
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  I'm in agony

  by rem in

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  my wife just left me this morning.

  i've been crying all night.

  i am so drained.

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  Pierced Angel

  Offer her some options that will give her more freedom (and yourself as well!). You know, she's just having an early mid-life crisis. You would no doubt start feeling the same way eventually too since men usually don't have them till a little later.

  And she's right, it's nothing to do with you, don't take it that way. If you do, you won't be able to think rationally about a solution. Tim and Xena are doing the open marriage thing and it seems to be working for them. You could try going to a swingers dance (without actually having to have sex with anyone, LOL) and just enjoy the attention. She might love that (or hate it, you never know). Joel and I did that last month and we just met up with a couple from the dance and had a very sexually liberating evening with them both. We were like nervous teenagers getting ready for a date. We were in it together and it was very exciting for us both. Of course, we only agreed since we both felt comfortable with the other couple. I don't know if we'll do anything as freaky as that again (yikes!) but we both know that we can put things on the table and not be afraid of each other's reaction. The freedom is overwhelming.

  Start being unconventional. This is YOUR marriage. Who says it has to feel like a prison? If you think you're going to lose her anyways, why not give up any jealousies or insecurities and just be her friend and both explore the world by "aiding each other" to do so. It's worth a try.

  I hope I don't sound too wild or immoral to you. I'm just surprised as hell that I am happier than ever with Joel. I'm constantly amazed because I really wanted a divorce so bad.

  Good luck and hang in there.

  Anne
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  I'm in agony

  by rem in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  my wife just left me this morning.

  i've been crying all night.

  i am so drained.

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  Pierced Angel

  {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{REM}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

  Don't give up yet.
  Just a couple months ago I said that to my husband and he moved out for a couple of days. I then realized through many tears and memories and goals for the future that I didn't want to live life without him, even if it meant giving up some things for myself. She might come around, give her time. She might just need some time to think about her life without you and weigh things out. Hopefully, for her sake, you're still willing to be there if she changes her mind. I don't know your situation, but if you both have had some great times together and really love each other, you're best to stay together. I was stubborn about that, blaming all my losses in life on being married too young when in fact, I wouldn't have half the opportunities and happiness in life if it weren't for my husband's loyal support and affection. I lost site of that when he started making me feel like just a piece of furniture. But, our problems brought that out to light and we are working on being good to each other again. Never turn a pot of gold into a trash can, right?

  I hope things work out for the best for you both.
  Take good care of yourself.

  Anne
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  a guy turned me down for a date

  by hungry4life in

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  i am so bummed yesterday i called this guy i know and asked him out, and he turned me down.

  not just a polite "i'm busy" but he let me know that his relationship with someone just ended last month and he needs time to recover, he said " i am taking the rest of the year off from dating" (sounded to me like "don't bother to ask again")i didn't even know that he had been seeing someone in a serious relationship (the last time i ran into him was in early december).

  we used to have had a few classes together and he always flirted with me.

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  Pierced Angel

  You're a hottie!
  My husband thinks you look very NICE.
  That was probably the only rejection you'll ever get, so getting it out in words was a good thing for the old scrapbook.
  Have a great weekend, go get 'em girl!!
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  What's Your Sign

  by MrMoe in

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  yes this has been done before... but there are lots of new posters soooooo... what's your sign?

  do you know your whole chart?

  i do astrology stuff and tarot yada yada, so if ya want i can do your whole chart for you and stuff, or compatibility charts too, but i need exact time of birth.

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  Pierced Angel

  Expat-You were born exactly one day after my brother. He was a Valentine's baby. And the only reason I state this is because, dammit, you're younger than me!

  September 23, 1967 Libra
  Don't know the time yet though, darn it.
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  celebrating the death of Jesus

  by blindfool in

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  am i the only one bothered by the way the jw's refer to the memorial as a celebration of the death of jesus?.

  i understand that jesus said to keep the tradition of the last meal, but should it be referred to as a celebration?

  this should be a solemn occasion and not one we would look forward to celebrating.

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  Pierced Angel

  Well, it was like going to a wedding, everyone always wears their finest clothes and we'd always end up going out to eat and drink afterwards with most from our hall.
  One time at Applebees, the waitress asked what the special occasion was (seeing there were so many of us there all dressed up on a weeknight). The one sister says "We just attended a memorial" and the waitress looked all serious and said "oH, I'm sorry to hear that" and the sister retorts with "OH, we're happy about it, it's the memorial of Jesus' death and we're celebrating!".

  The waitress seemed quite confused at that, lol.
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  If You Can't Accept Blood Then Surely......

  by Englishman in

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  if i believed that it was wrong to have a blood transfusion, then i would also believe that it was wrong to ingest any human blood fractions at all.

  picking and choosing what bit of blood is ok and what isnt, is not going along with the principle of the whole thing at all.

  it's just dodging the issue imo.. if i believed it was wrong to have a blood transfusion, common sense would tell me it was also wrong to have an organ transplant.

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  Pierced Angel

  That was one of the things I brought up when I da'd myself. I said that it was all so wishy-washy and that if you can't have blood, you can't have any blood, including fractions, PERIOD. That it just showed me that they were bending the rules because they were not sure themselves if it was as serious as they once thought. And I'm not going to risk my life or my children's lives on something they'll slowly change down the road and introduce as "new light".
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  Knock Knock...

  by KistByQpid in

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  i'd be interested in hearing some of the exjw's door-to-door experiences.

  i've probably had the saturday morning door knocking...maybe 6-8 times.

  i've never been "rude" except for once...when i had a particularly aggressive pair who wouldn't take "no thank you" for an answer.

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  Pierced Angel

  An elders wife in my old congregation once shared this story with her aunt and uncle (not in the truth) when she was outta the truth for a few years in her teen years. Now of course, she'll probably deny it, but I plan on reminding her if I get the chance.

  She was a real shy girl and when she got sent to a door she'd tell the householders "Hi, those are my parents in the car over there and I'll get in trouble if I don't give you these magazines. Please take them so they won't get mad at me." This was when she was about 10. She always placed magazines and everyone thought she was such a good little witness. LOL. I'm surprised she didn't have some angry people rapping on the car window giving her parents a piece of their mind. I know I would have been outraged if a child told me that.
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  Would you let your kids bf/gf sleep-over?

  by Abaddon in

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  at what age would you be happy with your kid's boyfriend and girlfriend 'sleeping over'?.

  would the rules be different for boys vs. girls?.

  personally, i think given a choice between 'it' happening anyway god-knows-where and giving a suitably mature kid some privacy, i go for the privacy option.. what do you think?

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  Pierced Angel

  As much as I hate to even think about it, I guess I'd have to be at least as lenient as my parents and just "act calmly" about it. Of course, I was already 18, still living at home, but the idea was still awkward at first. My boyfriend (now husband) would come to my place after work and we'd sleep in my basement bedroom and just try to be really quiet when we had sex.
  Still, the roar of the washing machine and dryer door slamming in the morning was my mom's reminder that we weren't in our own house just yet and that going at it like rabbits wasn't always appreciated!

  Ahh, yeah, I can WAIT for my daughter to get that age.
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  Barbarino VS The Fonz. Who's cooler?

  by CoolBreeze in

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  2. entertainment

  as i was posting a reply to another thread i started thinking about my two favorite sitcoms when i was a kid.

  welcome back kotter, and happy days.

  i always wanted to be as cool as vinny barbarino (john travolta), or arthur "the fonz" fonzerelli(henry winkler).

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  Pierced Angel

  AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
  The Fonz wins hands down for coolness.

  He can snap his fingers for me anytime.

  Anne